I can't understand why you'd have to choose between friends or lover...
I can't understand why you'd have to choose between family or lover...
I can't understand why you'd have to choose between lover or career...
Other people could only give advise and create options for you. At the end of the day, you will be the one who will do the choosing and it's your own counsel that you will follow. It doesn't matter which way you choose, what matters is if you're brave enough to stand by it.