On Special Friendships, MU's and Pseudo Relationships

Just this week, I learned from a guy friend that he has finally decided to end a two-year "friendship" with a girl with whom he has exclusively dating. The reason? The girl had just recently committed herself into a formal relationship...with another guy. My friend of course was completely devastated saying that he never learned about the girl having a boyfriend already. Kung hindi pa sila nagpunta sa isang despidida party nung barkada nung girl, hindi nya pa malalaman na may boyfriend na yung isa. He never got the chance to ask the girl about it coz he stopped communicating with her upon learning of the situation.

Nung tinanong ko naman sya kung sino sa kanilang dalawa ang nag-decide that they should be on that kind of set up, he said, he was the one who made that option. During that time, he said, he still love the mother of his child. So I told him:

'Tol, don't you think it's somehow your fault why you are in that
kind of situation now? Don't you think she got tired of waiting for you to make
up your mind when to take your friendship to the next level? Don't think that
she has no intention to tell you about her recent commitment. Perhaps, she does,
but other people got to you first before she did. You were caught off guard and
you didn't know how to react. And I believe that is the reason why you're
hurting..you were blind-sided. It would have been less painful if you got the
news from her first than from a third party. Plus, you were caught unaware. Ni hindi nya nabanggit na merong nanliligaw sa kanya eh alangan namang basta
nya na lang sinagot yung guy di ba?

The thing is he never realized the extent of emotional investment that he had with girl until just now. He thought that he could put it aside and just be content with the kind of relationship that they had...na parang sila pero hindi naman.

Personally, I never favored pseudo relationship although I don't condemn people who are into it. I strongly believe that if two people are committed enough to spend too much time together, I think it would be better for them to officially commit themselves especially if they're both free. However, should you find yourself into that kind of situation, it would be safer for you to never allow yourself to fall too hard. Coz you might find that there is nobody there to break your fall...